Monday, August 9, 2010

Just, How?

How do men do it when they go home to their wives everyday, yet they feel justified to go for spa with other women?

How do men do it when they profess love to their wives, yet watch porn with other women?

How do men do it when they are on a holiday with their wives, yet can SMS/email other women "wish you were here. miss you"?

How do men do it when they hug and kiss their wives yet they sneak to meet and be with other women?

How do men do it when they are flying back to their wives from a long (or short) business trip, yet can tell other women "i've something to brighten up your day"?

How do men do it when they look at their wives yet all they want is other women's attention?


Above all, feel justified.
And above all, they feel like they have done nothing wrong.
And above all, and worst of all, can still tell their wives, "My feelings for you don't change. I still love you"

With my IQ level of 120 and two Degrees in the bag, I still canNOT possibly comprehend this.


Lately, friends - & strangers alike - have written to me and share their predicament.
And for that, I can never thank you enough.

In times of hardship, the heart feels an extra TLC when a friend - & stranger, alike - opens up to you, to share with you that you are not alone.

It gives you the extra lift to face the day when you know that someone understands.
That someone can relate, and not just criticise.

Trust me, all that have been thru devastating patch will agree with me that it isn't like we don't want to move on already.
Moving on is merely an 8-letter statement.

But to some, turning that 8-letter phrase into action isn't as easy as just saying it.

"When you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on."
~ Franklin D. Roosevelt

"When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don't give up though the pace seems slow--
You may succeed with another blow,
Success is failure turned inside out--
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit--
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit."

~ Unknown

"Fall seven times, stand up eight."
~ Japanese Proverb


  1. Salam Ramadan al-Mubarak, AA.

    Hang in there. You'll get through this.

    I know coz my mom had to go thru the same thing. She's a strong lady, and I'm sure you are one, too. In hindsight (given time) this might be the best thing that could have happened to you..

    Btw, thanks for posting the poem. I got it fr my sis when I was struggling with SPM eons ago (how 'small' was life's problem then, huh?) but it got me thru it anyway. Take care, ya!

  2. Take your time to heal. While you're at it, remember that you had the strength to walk away from the person/thing/situation that was hurting you. Not many people are brave enough to do that.

    Take care and may this holy month bring you some solace.

  3. Yatie - thanks so much for the words of encouragment. & selamat berpuasa to you, too :) may this one be more blessed than the last :)

    I'm still struggling to convince myself that "this" is the BEST thing that had happened to me

    Mommy at Home - if only I could have the courage to admit that I have actually walked away from whatever that's hurting me now, cos I haven't.

    I don't know how to.
    I'm just waiting for divine intervention again

    You take care, too & ditto, may this holy month brings you peace & happiness :)